Why the Perfect Christmas is not what you think
Yesterday I watched a semi trailer reverse perfectly up to a narrow loading ramp to unload cattle. The driver was a long way from the rear end of the trailer, yet the precision with which he manoeuvred his load left me awestruck. I can’t park my much smaller car as well as that!
Watching skilled people at work constantly amazes me how well society organises itself. It’s as though the whole planet is an organism with every living thing perfectly integrated.
We can waste time bemoaning our lack of talent or skill instead of celebrating our unique strengths. People with ADHD are particularly prone to this because they feel constantly reminded of their failings.
What does that have to do with Christmas? Just this: let the well-organised plan the day, the artistic among us can do the decorating, the observant ones notice what gifts are appropriate for even the most difficult recipient, and the socially aware know how to keep everyone happy and the gathering of people harmonious. Be gracious enough to allow everyone to use their particular strengths and ask for advice when needed.
By doing that every one will feel needed and valued, and teamwork shares the load.
Sometimes it takes a while to become comfortable with our unique gifts. If you are not sure go here and take the VIA (Values in Action) Survey of Character Strengths and find out your top five signature strengths. There is a brief version too if you feel pressed for time, and also a children’s version.
